A New Language for Women
“Oh for God’s sake, don’t speak to me in Womaneze!”. That is what Selma’s teenage son blurted out in irritation when she told him that, no, she was not angry when she actually was.
Yes, we women often speak ancient Womaneze. We tell others around us that we are fine when the exact opposite is true. Sometimes, we are just not fine, particularly during the menopause years.
Selma and I met online, through a forum about intermittent fasting. We were both struggling with the layers of fat that had taken permanent residence around our midriffs, and we wanted to do something about it.
Weight and other challenges
We were both deep in menopausal waters feeling the full-blown effects of these changes happening to us. Our weight and overall wellbeing was our focus that led us to this website.
We are two women, so different in many ways, but who were going through the same challenges around growing older, getting fatter, becoming more aware of time passing, and looking after older parents. We bonded over wine and laughter, absolutely clicked, and became close friends.
Both professional women at the time, we struggled with how we wanted to live this new phase in life while finding meaning and purpose. Our professional cultures were certainly providing none of what we were looking for, and we were truly fed up.
So, we left.
As our story unfolded, she went back to school for my second master’s and I became a freelance consultant. Acquaintances, friends, and family were completely perplexed by our choices. They couldn’t understand why we would leave high positions with very well-paid jobs for an uncertain future with no financial stability.
The answer for us was very simple — We felt that life was being sucked out of us; we needed to breathe. We wanted to live our lives through our own values and to set our own rules. At this stage in life, we really didn’t care what others thought of our choices. This was the time to do things for ourselves and not for others, as we had done all of our adult lives.
New careers new goals
This was a few years ago. Selma graduated, and I became an Executive Coach. Something was still missing, though. We talked for hours about how we might work together on helping other women going through the same difficulties we had faced.
We are now on the “other side” of the tunnel. We are in the light. It was a difficult journey, but both of us are happier and more comfortable in our own skin. The darkness was real, but we were able to make it easier through changes in mindset and tweaks in lifestyle.
We think of this chapter as a normal phase in every woman’s life. For most women, it is not an illness that needs medical attention or drugs.
People were becoming socially and emotionally distanced long before the coronavirus. Our research shows that women do not have strong support systems at this stage of life. When they do have close friends of a similar age, they often don’t discuss menopause, nor seek advice from older women in their circles.
So, we decided to change the way we speak about menopause. Our Womaneze is a clear, warm, and caring language for women going through menopause.
Womaneze seeks to help women navigate this natural transition in life and to regain control.
M & S
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